I have had the same concern. When H had the 6-week A in 2002, he mentioned that when he started his new job 4 months before, I hadn't been supportive of all that came with his promotion and our move. In my defense, I was 7 months pregnant, quit my job to move with him, and was living in a hotel room w/two cats and a stinky litterbox, working 30 hrs/week and house hunting. I didn't have time to think let alone be supportive of him. But I know that was a mistake, I included that in my "Detach w/love" letter two weeks ago. I acknowledged that w/each baby and each move, I was wrapped up in my needs and didn't help him with his needs. So, when he came home today, I did say, "let me know if there is anything I can do to help or support you". But I am not going to hover or mother-hen him bc that is what usually annoys him. I guess he wants a certain level of "restrained support" (if there is such a thing!?) and I am going to have to learn how to give enough but not too much. Regarding my previous post, I got a TM at 4:15 while driving kids up to my mom's in Iowa: "No furniture or apt. Going in to talk to Tim (boss' boss) tomorrow to find out what is really going on" I waited an hour so he wouldn't think I was sitting by the phone waiting for him, then replied "Good luck talking w Tim I hope you get what you want from him & keep your job-don't let them screw you." I didn't mention his comments re. the furniture or apartment. BC as far as I know he still plans to move in with a bachelor buddy or something affordable like that. He never said he wasn't moving out. What sucks is even if he stays at this point it appears to be for financial reasons, not R reasons. So it is like waiting for the other shoe to drop. If the talk goes well tomorrow and his job is safe, he could just call the apt. and furniture people and do what he was already going to do. Because he has a hard time with honesty and pride, I have also considered the possibility that he decided he didn't want to move out (which he TOLD me last night he didn't want to), but couldn't admit that to me, so he fabricated the boss confrontation to have a reason to stay at the house. In retrospect, the entire event of him calling me, coming home, and going back to work fit in to his usual 11:30-12:30 lunch hour....? If that is the case that stinks too bc even if he stayed bc he really wants to, he is still lying to me to hide his feelings from me. So it is almost worse that he isn't moving out. BC I just got home at 8:00pm and his stuff is all still here, so I don't know if that means he is staying here, or what. I am going about my business doing more tax preparation on the computer tonight (and checking the BBs!). It was my plan to come home around 8 or 9 and do my own thing knowing he had moved out and I was moving on for now. But now I am wondering if/when he will show up. This will suck if it is going to be this way indefinitely....Oh well I will try to just keep on keepin' on. But it is going to be annoying to me if he keeps living here but comes and goes as he pleases. I was actually READY for him to move out today. One other thing though I considered the possibility that I already told him the kids were going to Iowa and I would be out for the evening so maybe he just went out with the guys or got dinner out bc he didn't want to come home to our empty house? Got to stop overanalyzing.
So it is like waiting for the other shoe to drop. If the talk goes well tomorrow and his job is safe, he could just call the apt. and furniture people and do what he was already going to do. 
