Yeah - I know. I am in my head for the simple reason that I never see H, am never alone with H when we are both awake and in fact, never have a chance to talk with him about needing the carpet shampooed or the dry cleaning picked up MUCH LESS to talk about our ahem, sex life when we don't even talk, he rarely kisses me and here we are.... He is leaving for yet another business trip tomorrow. My only chances to discuss anything are so inappropriate as to be ludicrous. He made plans for us to go away for a weekend around Valentine's Day (we have to take the baby because he's still nursing). Then what? I can't imagine ruining our time together bringing it up and I can't imagine not bringing it up and I can't imagine having sex after all this time - I actually feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. I would be more comfortable fcuking a stranger at this point. At least with a stranger I would have a fighting chance.
I have found these latest books instructive -not as to what is happening with H but the books and information seem to echo what we have found on this forum. It is very interesting. Don't forget that this also ties in to my profession so I'm not always analyzing H. I take great pains NOT to do so. I don't know "why" - I have some pet theories but it doesn't make them right. Frankly, the why doesn't really matter at all. I was just addressing the porn issue brought up here by another angle. It is rarely as simple as some guys want to think - "I just use porn cause it is good, clean, fun" - sometimes it IS but that is when a guy has a healthy SL going already or is between partners not so much when that is ALL the SL he has going on.
Yeah Cemar - some guys were unhappy with their W's appearance but interestingly those same guys also brought some other stuff to the table - weight gain or depression of their own, ED, complicated family issues etc.... So, was it solely the weight gain???????? When those same guys partners lost weight the frequency of sex did not increase.
