Your right Appleroad. I have to look at the separation as a positive for him to find himself. He happened to come over unexpectedly about 2 hours ago. He called and said that he had lost his keys when he was out running errands. He lost his keys to our house and to his new apartment. Work had called and there was a situation that he needed to log in to work and therefore had to come into the house. When he came in, I left him alone and I could see that he was really stressed out about the situation at work. When it was complete, he came over to me and said that he was sorry to come into the house and be in such a bad mood. He then when on to tell me that he was really upset about losing his keys. That his afternoon was ruined b/c of it and that he had to go track down the landlord of his apt and then work called and they said he had to fix things right away. He mentioned that he was so stressed out about everything his head was about to explode. I just listened (normally I would have made suggestions or try to console him). He then said he had to go. He also brought up that he doesn't handle these types of situations well b/c he has emotional problems (I was surprised he made that comment) and then he got teary eyed. When he was leaving, I followed him out and said that I would lock the door. He looked at me and said, "So we are still on for Wednesday?". I said for him to call me and I would see how I was feeling. He mentioned that we could work something out if I wasn't up to it on Wednesday. I am still conflicted. I think maybe I should tell him that we should do it next week instead and that way, we will have a little more time apart. Who knows?....Everyone is telling me that I need to make it so he misses me a little. This is a guy that told me 2 months ago that he didn't need to spend that much time w/ me and that he never misses me. He likes when we get together, but he doesn't to spend it w/me. I see that he does the same thing w/ his mother. I placates her and will see her briefly just to make sure she is okay, but really he doesn't need to spend the time w/her. I think he makes plans to see her every so often b/c he feels bad. He is a nice guy and sensitive to peoples feelings so I know that is why he always make sure to call her and check in. That is what keeps messing me up. Could he be doing the same thing w/me?.....
