Thanks HFF, and it's great to hear from you. I am very happy to see that Retro went well for you and your W. Obviously not a miracle cure but something that opens your eyes to effective communication. This is definitely something I would like to see me and my W get into. It doesn't feel like the right moment though, even with communication as the selling point.
My wife has been telling people that she is now indifferent towards OM but I can see/feel that this is not the case. She's trying to convince herself that she is. She's better than she was but still gets mired in depression.
Mike, I can understand your hesitation, but as I said in my last post, it sounds like you are your W are very close to the point that we were at prior to the weekend. I'm sure your W is still struggling with feelings for the OG. My W was also. This weekend really gave her hope that she could get past that.
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My slip up was very minor, I think. We had to go to MIL's house to pick up a car and W mentioned she needed some notebooks for school (starting up tomorrow). I told her that since I was running out the gym I would pick them up for her. Nothing major but in hindsight I think I should have waited for her to ask.
Doesn't sound like you were being a doormat. You were being kind and considerate. That's a good thing.
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One interesting thing (I'm sure no one will be offended by this). While I was preparing dinner during my lunch break she asked for a cigarette. My hands were full of potatoes so I told her they were in my left pocket. She reached in and said in a mischievous voice "better be careful of what I pull out." We both laughed, of course.
This is good also. W and I shared moments like this also during the not so good times. It seems as though they know that they really love you deep down and sometimes slip at moments like this. Then catch themselves and pull away again.
Sounds like you are doing very good overall. Keep it up.
