I feel like I offended you, and I'm sorry. After this post, I will stop.
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so then your point would be that I should no longer do anything with H or H and the kids?
I should have been more specific, I suppose. If you choose to be around your H, then you cannot do it with anger/contempt. You fell right into the normal pattern of commenting on his absence, making smart comments, etc. I didn't personally want to be around H in any shape or form when his A was full blown. It made me sick, hurt too much. I nicely spread out the time with the kids so we had equal amounts. If we had to do stuff as a family together, I focused on the kids only and treated H like a friend, and most of the time we drove separately. And I never R talked unless it was calm and the kids weren't around.
