Originally Posted By: Dom R
dont say he's doing anything "wrong" now.
just ask for what you want.
Keep it simple.

"I'd really like it if you did .... would you do that for me?"


maybe that's my problem... right now, what i tell him i want is basically a guess at what i think can help. When it doesn't work, he's like WTF... and rightfully so, since i asked him to try that.

Also, sometimes i get a response like this...

M: i'd really like it if you'd do XYZ
H: what's wrong with ABC

I normally try to say
M: It's not that there is anything wrong with ABC, just thought we could try XYZ...

he tends to take it as i'm not happy with ABC, which honestly, i'm probably not. Maybe that comes across when i say it, I'll have to pay more attention. I really just want what we had (with more sex ;\) ) and i don't know how to get back to that.

I know what i used to want, but those things now kinda kill it for me cause of the whole lack of desire/attraction thing. I feel lost.

If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown

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