Rob #9 - Don't Stop Believin'

[Rob1231]

Hi gang, Haven't updated much lately, figured it was about time.

Continuing to work on Piecing - takes a loooong time, let me tell ya. Time and Patience, baby, Time and Patience. Every now and then, I see myself or W starting to backslide into some old habits - yeah, that's pretty easy to do - but overall things are pretty good. Let's see...

Still working on doing more with friends. Slacked off on that a bit over the holidays, trying to get back in the swing while everybody is battling the January Blahs.

Started swing dance lessons again, this time with a woman who worked at W's former company. (An aside: the woman's husband is a real introvert and won't go with her. I hardly know the guy, but it makes me wanna drive to his house and say "WAKE UP, YOU MORON!" She is really fun and outgoing, says it doesn't bother her, and jokes about needing to find a gay boyfriend dance partner - but I have to wonder!) Anyhow...

Got invited by some good friends (band parents) to join them on a vacation in the outer banks this summer, co-renting a house. We've always said that would be fun - how cool to have been invited! Too bad D15 finds their son really annoying (well, truth to tell, he IS) but them's the breaks. W and the other mom are having fun picking out the house (there she goes planning it all again! )

One area that W and I are backsliding a bit is in the Hot Sex Department. I don't want to see us revert to that nasty roommate-like world, so I'm a third of the way into Michelle's Sex Starved Marriage book. (I figured MWD pointed me in the right direction once, so why not again?) Not surprisingly, a lot of the advice sounds very like what I already learned from DBing - just need to apply it in a different aspect of the R now. I should say, we're not talking a dire, disastrous sitch here - just an area of our lives that needs a boost, so that's exactly what I plan to do.

D15 is doing pretty well in school. She's waffling on what she wants to study in college (my opinion is she's still trying to find some job that doesn't require her to actually do any work). She's enjoying learning to drive. Trying to be upbeat about this rather than letting stark terror rule my life.

My own job is still going pretty well. In some ways, it probably would be good for me to move on (I've been at this job for 18 years), but it's engaging enough right now I can happily put that on the back burner for a while.

Bottom line: Doing pretty well, but there's ALWAYS more to do. One big part of Piecing, IMHO, is realizing this - even when you are successful, you need to treat the R as a journey, not a destination. Keep trying, keep growing, keep GALing and PMAing.