(LFL) Like if you can't do some of the St Bernarding (going to emergency room), you would just suck as a boyfriend anyways, so why bother? ... Every R entails some expectations though. Gets tricky.
Yep, but if I tried to full-zoo with somebody it would be especially tricky. For instance, I can go with her to the emergency room on Tuesday but not on Wednesday (if Wednesday is band night).
I think there are two answers that don't involve lying. One is to focus on my friendship Rs and father-son Rs and leave romantic Rs for the future. The downside is celibacy (which, I have learned, ain't the end of the world). The other is to be wolf-dominant in wolf-dominated Rs. As you say, that would be tricky in its own way, but it would be much more consistent than any R that included the on-again/off-again St Bernard.
The problem with that is I was married at 21 and dated exclusively (mostly) for almost four years before that. Being wolf-dominant in Rs is not second nature to me. I could comfortably fall into the "no romantic Rs" option but I suspect a large part of that decision would be avoiding the anxiety I'd have dealing with the unfamiliar (i.e. wolf-dominance). The answer seems to be working at being wolf-dominant until that option causes no more anxiety than the no-romance option, then making an honest choice.
ETA:
I think guys think more like that than women.
Yeah. That dovetails with others' ideas I've been reading recently.
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