Haha, I know, the disadvantages of being a guy. It's nice to be able to fix things, but it stinks not understanding what's written between the lines when your best friend talks to you.
The problem with our (women's) reading between the lines and intuition is how often we are either wrong or too afraid to act on it.
I agree that outing the OM to his W or at work won't work for you. That's like telling your teenage daughter you "forbid" her to see a boy. Yikes.
