Hi Corri - i haven't told him exactly what i wrote above...
prior to EA - a typical conversation about our sex life would involve me asking H if he has fantasies, what he likes/doesn't like, why certain things bother him, if he feels comfortable with me... the response i have always gotten is no fantasies that he can think of, everything is just fine the way it is now, he doesn't know, he just doesn't like them, and yeah, sure he feels fine with me... Anything that can cut the conversation short....
Now - all SL conversations somehow come back to how i don't want him and how long is it going to take for me to love him again? I spend most of the time reassuring him. I try to explain certain things he can do that would probably help me warm up to him physically, but that ends up coming across to him as one more thing he can't get right... I think my biggest problem is that i am not 100% sure what will fix things and what i want, so i don't know how to tell him. He literally wants me to give him an answer and i don't have one...
If someone is dealing with a lot of insecurities, how do you think would be the best way to approach a conversation so i don't make him feel worse?
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
