Newsflash for WolfPack

[MJontheMend]

You guys are mixing up the animal analogies and it's going to go from useful to utterly confusing in a hurry. 'Wolf' was originally one facet of a personality, now you've got it being the entire personality type.

Yeah, my bad. I couldn't resist the joke about Jack. I should note for the eternal record that the cornerstone of my whole zoo philosophy is that EVERYBODY has all these facets to their personality but may be in unconscious denial or conscious abrogation of exhibition of certain animals in the zoo.

The wolf doesn't have anything to do with deciding how detached to be. That's the zookeeper's job. Both blackfoot and Stig have claimed to be, essentially, all wolf in their recent relationships, but they've both also been married. Obviously their zookeepers at one time showed that they value connection. But now isn't the time, so until that changes, visitors to the zoo only get to see the wolf (and maybe a bit of monkey and perhaps a glimpse at the St Bernard). That's a mature zookeeper.

I absolutely respect this. My only point would be to question any guy who indicates that it's never going to change or question why any guy who didn't on some level want to facilitate such a change would be hanging out on this BB. Also, when a man says that he killed his puppy it makes me think that lingering fusion from his past relationship might be part of the reason for hanging in wolf mode and maybe he might want/need assistance with that since that is roughly the purpose of this BB. Of course, there are a bajillion practical and purely preferential reasons why a guy might want to hang in just-exhibit-wolf mode. The universal and obvious one being simple lack of simple resources.

The easiest thing in the world for me to do, though, would be to find a nice girl, start a relationship and give her a pass to see all the animals. Eventually one of two things would happen. The R would progress beyond the point I was capable of handling and I'd shut down the zoo to her. No admittance. Or she'd eventually notice the parts of the zoo that are in significant disarray and either stop coming around or start trying to fix.

I guess the reason I'm inclined to semi-argue the point with you is that I believe that this is mostly true but so what? Why is it any worse of a choice to have to deal with these consequences than to choose to only exhibit the wolf? What if you were in a position to form a relationship? You would still have to deal with a lot of this type of stuff unless you were planning on hooking up forever with the first acceptable female you encountered. OTOH, it actually is possible that even if you aren't looking for commitment and a female you hook up with is she might reject you for unrelated reasons.

The funny thing is that I might be the pot calling the kettle black in this regard because I don't know how to signal that I want affection with my sex without ending up with men asking for some level of commitment from me. Everybody has issues with vulnerability.