Tied to the Whipping Post

[sleeper]

Just had a realization,

Wife says she "needs" to be alone to heal which includes discovering who she is, etc. In the beginning she said, "You go deal with your stuff, I'll go deal with mine and we'll see what happens." On some level she knows she has "stuff" to deal with and she was correct in that I had "stuff" to deal with.

My realization is this; I always accepted her "need" to be unattached as a "need." I now see it as a want, not a need. Like a little kid, they're going to say need because it has a higher importance than want. Proof that it is just a want and not a need is that she is so attached to OM.

Another disadvantage of being a guy and taking statements literally rather then intuitively as women do. Also a personal disadvantage of believing what people tell me is true.