Well, isn't this really the difference between immature wolf and mature wolf.
You guys are mixing up the animal analogies and it's going to go from useful to utterly confusing in a hurry. 'Wolf' was originally one facet of a personality, now you've got it being the entire personality type.
No one on this board has ever recommended that a guy be all wolf. Even the controversial killing of the puppy (which in actually is just letting the St Bernard deal with the puppy and no one else) leaves three active animals.
The wolf doesn't have anything to do with deciding how detached to be. That's the zookeeper's job. Both blackfoot and Stig have claimed to be, essentially, all wolf in their recent relationships, but they've both also been married. Obviously their zookeepers at one time showed that they value connection. But now isn't the time, so until that changes, visitors to the zoo only get to see the wolf (and maybe a bit of monkey and perhaps a glimpse at the St Bernard). That's a mature zookeeper.
I'm not in a position to be in a real relationship at the moment, either. The easiest thing in the world for me to do, though, would be to find a nice girl, start a relationship and give her a pass to see all the animals. Eventually one of two things would happen. The R would progress beyond the point I was capable of handling and I'd shut down the zoo to her. No admittance. Or she'd eventually notice the parts of the zoo that are in significant disarray and either stop coming around or start trying to fix. (Every man's zoo needs a little disarray for the woman to be interested in fixing but the load bearing walls, for one example, need to be in proper working order.) Would it be more mature for me to go down that route or to recognize that what I've got is a one-wolf show and only allow my zoo to appeal to women who are looking for that?
It amuses me that people see this Jack Nicholson thing as some kind of vindication. "Oh, look, his philandering ways have left him empty and now he wants what all of us, deep down, really want." Seems to me that Jack has lived his life the way he wanted to all along (ala Ted Nugent ). I haven't seen him say that he regrets how he's lived, only that at this point he wants something different. Based on his past results at getting what he wants, I'd bet he's going to be successful at this, too, and continue enjoying his life.
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). I haven't seen him say that he regrets how he's lived, only that at this point he wants something different. Based on his past results at getting what he wants, I'd bet he's going to be successful at this, too, and continue enjoying his life.