Hi Essie,

Hows it going? I really missed my BF today too...I have been struggling for 2 days, desperate to contact him and questioning why I'm not..then I have to remind myself, he left ME, he knows where I am and how I feel about him...so I guess I have to wait? Its confusing becuase the advice here says try something new, adjust if what you were doing wasnt working...but if they're not contacting us, how do you know if us staying dark is chipping away at their resolve, or having no effect !?? I cant figure this one out! I didnt C him in the end though. I have decided to just let him come to me, when he's ready. Whats your plan?

I wanted to post you, because of your age..someone on this board mentioned 1/4 MLC...this does exist, but is not so much a crisis as an evolution. MLC is on average around 42 and linked to the 7 year cycles of Saturn. We all have a "Saturn Return" at between 27 1/2 and 30, this is what you're experiencing. It can mean hard work, hard lessons but also a time to grow and mature and find out who you are. It often effects our close relationships and tests them. Look it up on google?

Anyway, apologies if you think astrology is rubbish! I just thought as you are 29, and you married on the last Saturn cycle (7 years ago), it might help put some perspective on your sitch, if you're interested.

Ali

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Me: 36
H: 34
T: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Moved out: 15 Nov 07
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1324947


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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