Originally Posted By: cat03
good luck Jon))) glad you are praying, the only way I get peace through my trials. About the gifts, if you want to test the waters you can start with a small bouquet of flowers, nothing too fancy and then wait (we are suckers for flowers \:\)


Thanks cat, Lauren is especially a sucker for flowers. I think this Thursday may be the time to try it.

This weekend turned out very interesting. Like most of your threads, I've entered the Twilight Zone.

Friday night we were supposed to go dancing, but she was feeling bad again. We went shopping instead, turned out to be a lot of fun. First, a beauty supply store where she made a very sexy and surprising purchase, and then a grand opening for a new grocery store. We had a fun dinner at home and went to bed early.

Saturday, she still had a bad headache, and said she wanted to stay in and watch movies all day. Sounded great to me, and I went for a long run with the dog, picked up three movies and food for lunch. We had a great time, especially with the movie "License to Wed". Romantic movies can be awkward, especially since this one is a funny take on pre-marital counseling. I didn't know how it would work in our current sitch, but we both enjoyed it. Baked a cake together and called it a night.

The entire day OM was bugging her, texting and calling. Again she complained to me about him. Again, wanted to say "what the heck did you expect", but stayed compassionate and validating.

Sunday morning, she said she wanted a pregnancy test. Say what? “How would I feel if I were pregnant?” I responded with the truth: "Well, I'd hope it was mine". She didn't like that. Yes, we've been ML a lot, but I don't know how far it went with OM (I know a lot more than she thinks, did some e-mail snooping). She asked how I would feel if she was active with someone else, and I responded that I would be sad for her, because I know these guys and what they're after. I don’t want to see her get hurt like that. She seemed to like that response. The more I think about it and talk to others, my wife is having the rebellious teenage period that she never had. She'd been making a lot of comments during our marriage, like "I should've had more fun in college like everyone else." Well, now she's having it, and it's not what she hoped.

We went and got the test, it was negative. Strangely, I felt sad, and she noticed and asked me about it. I told her yes, I'm sad, because for the first time in my life I feel ready for something like that. I have a great job with great benefits for her and a potential kid, have a financial planner, getting counseling for myself.

So, I guess the GAL and working on myself is working. I went out with some friends and watched football Sunday night, and I'm going to leave W alone until Thursday, when we get ready to go camping this weekend.

Here's a funny quote as I walked out the door, telling her my plans for the next few days.

W: "I can't picture you doing that"
Me: "There's a lot about me you don't know"
W: "You sound like one of those women trying to be mysterious"

I just left it at that \:\) She called late last night, and we had a great talk. Another good sign. Things seem to be turning, but they could turn back just as quick. I'm finally getting to the point where her crazy antics don't affect me that much, which feels good.

Thanks for listening,
Jon


Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK