"Your H (and mine!) is choosing to be where it makes him happy. We know he is losing out, making the wrong choices, and hurting the people around him. WAY deep down he knows this too, but is into denial and lashing out, so no way will he see it, or believe it if you tell him."
So the ? is how do we make them see that? I thought we were supposed to try to make ourselves attractive, GAL, not talk about the R, not begging or pursuing and I have been doing all that. I noticed he is trying to avoid church, and our pastor who has been trying to meet with him, hasn't gone to church much if at all in the last month now, he stopped going to the monthly men's group Christian meetings he used to go to, made comments that he is a slut or tramp or something just like the OW is, (he has been a Christian his whole life) so he internally must be having some conflict going on already). Are you saying I am not doing it right, not doing enough; you don't think he will realize that the our marriage is a good deal at some point? Karen43
