Sue, if your H had gotten to your BILs house that night, would you have had sex with him? He is amazingly hurtful and lashing out his own pain onto you and D3. You don't deserve it. I am thankful you had your feminine issues last night because I fear you would have had sex with H, when 24 hours before, he said the cruelest things to you. This *might* be H's love language (sex), but right now, he doesn't deserve for you to meet his needs anyway.
I think more importantly than filling out the papers is to remove yourself from your H, or ask him to leave.
