W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[Lanzo]

Earlier sunday evening, W decided that she wanted to watch American Idol on cable instead of a movie. I took this opportunity to journal my thoughts before posting on DB. W then makes a cryptic comment that no one gets a chance on the computer cos I'm always writing essays. I told her the computer is available she just needs to say so. Then I read between the lines and got what she was really saying, she actually wants me to watch American Idol with her. doh.

Quality time is defiantly her thing, while we were chatting before sleep W said she now looks forward to the weekends. I asked her weekends with me ? (cos I wanted to get a little R chat going), but she said she looks forward to a family weekend, the three of us doing things together. I know this is all good but I wanted to slip in it's great doing the family thing with me but you can't have it if you're gonna do the sex thing somewhere else. Hey, we've been down this road before. Yeah I stopped doing the family thing cos there was no intimacy going on between us, so there's another old cycle that needs to be broken.

Now it seems like it's ok for W to snuggle up to me at bed time but not for me to do the same to her. Last night W snuggled up to me and fell asleep with her head resting on my arm so I just left her there. I didn't make amy moves I just lay there with her.

Today I forgot my lunchbox, so W phones my cell when I'm driving to work and ask do I want to meet somewhere so she can pass them to me. I just say we may as well meet and have lunch together, W said ok. We meet for lunch and when we finish W said she really enjoyed lunch and we should do it again. I said definitely. I even got a kiss from her, lately I've just been getting a friendly hug.

OK I have a question, I have undoubtedly discovered W LL as quality time, but she returns it to me in acts of service, hence the upturn in our sitch. How do I let her know that my LL is touch and that this mis match between is one of the broken pieces in our jigsaw. It's a tough question but one I think will need to be answered if we are to piece things together. (I've got my thinking cap on).

Lan