I think he has suffered in the list of things I already posted yesterday. When he went out Sat. night, he spent the night with a woman who neglects her kids (spends 40 hours a week on the affair with my H) instead of with her children and has terrible morals; she is a married woman with kids having an affair with a married man with kids. Instead he could have spent the night with his family who loves him: his kids and his wife who has devoted her life to him and her kids and he chose not to; we watched a movie and had hot chocolate and had a great time without him. I think he lost out myself.
Karen,
I'm sorry, but he most certainly doesn't see this as a "loss." If he did, he wouldn't be doing it.
If my list doesn't work, come up with your own, even if it's just one of two things, but I think it's imperative that your husband see YOU initiating some sort of consequences for his disrespectful behavior towards you. You said yourself in a previous post, "he sees me as weak."
THIS is where you need to focus, in my opinion. I'll stop badgering you about it, but that's just my take.
