Get Me on a Smoother Ride.....Need Advice, Part 11

[Rob1231]

Hi Sue, Wow. Your H just continues to demonstrate how out of control and selfish he is - it's so sad to see someone sinking that low. And it's so sad to see you and D3 being subjected to this.

Feminine issues aside, it amazes me that you would even consider having sex with H at this time. Obviously, it's a very complex and personal choice - but I just don't see it as a loving act on his part. And if it isn't, he's just using you - and that needs to stop.

I don't have personal experience with a substance abuser, so take this FWIW - but I can't see H turning his life around as long as he is in the grips of alcoholism. I really worry about the impact of this on you and D3. I fear you are at risk in so many ways from him - in particular, from financial ruin, STD's, and possibly physical violence. Please, please, PLEASE think about how to protect yourself in each of these areas - this man is a train wreck waiting to happen, and I fear that unless you take some active steps to avoid it, you and D3 could be really badly hurt when (not if) it happens.

Another thought that occurs to me - OW must be pretty seriously F'ed up herself. I can't imagine what would make someone think your H, in his current state, was someone they wanted to run away and live happily ever after with. Yuck.

Take care of yourself and stay strong. Many, many (((hugs)))!