LD folk often don't really know why they have lost their sex drive. However, there is a natural human tendency to come up with a reason and a further natural tendency to come up with the reason that is most readily at hand.
In my experience, there isn't usually a simple reason for being LD. It seems that there are often layers of reasons/causes and the more you peel back the layers the more you realize how complicated it is. Every time I think I have figured it out, I find another layer. Even for those who LD folk who want to get at the bottom of it, it's not a simple process at all.
For some LD men or maybe most, shame is a reason that they are LD, but the very fact that they are LD also makes them ashamed because society tells us that men are supposed to be HD. So they are in a catch-22. I'm sure that shame plays a role in women being LD as well.
And I can't remember if it was on this thread that haphazard mentioned the Fear of Intimacy book, but regardless, it sounds like a very interesting book, and quite a timely topic for me. So, thanks!
