I feel your pain, john <said in my best Bill Clinton drawl>. But don't let that pain control you. Slipping into darkness solves nothing. LRT is LAST RESORT. You haven't made it to first option, none the less last resort. She want's to share an intimate momment (her difficulty and your feelings) and you shut her down. She reaches out with TM, you reject her. (I'm ok with ignoring the links email). She want's you involved (banking) and you take offense.

I know these decisions of yours come from the hurt you are feeling - but to an outsider like me, they come across as bitter [I know from your other postings you're leaning towards having this work out - so I know you are not bitter] ... but you have to stop this illogical, counterproductive behavior - that is if you are in with both feet toward working on saving the M. But I still sense you are on the fence.

I'll say it again, john - sorry to beat a dead horse. Are you in or out?

Me - 43 and She -36. No kids.
Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs