Merel:

Sorry that you're here too. But, like Treese said, this is a great place to vent, cry and get advice. I too am new here (bomb 11/07).

Read Michele's book Divorce Busting, it will help.

Read other threads (mine is H with MLC), there is lots of good advice here.

You sound like you are making a great start on your GAL (get a life) goals. Good for you!

First and foremost, take care of yourself. Helpfully our H's will see the error of their ways when they wake up from their MLC's.

Be strong.