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What were the top few reasons?


I think that the thing that is VERY important to note if you reflect on what we've observed on this BB is that LD folk often don't really know why they have lost their sex drive. However, there is a natural human tendency to come up with a reason and a further natural tendency to come up with the reason that is most readily at hand. Like when you have a stomach-ache you start thinking "Maybe that burger place I went for lunch was dirty" or "Maybe I'm getting appendicitis" etc. etc. For instance my 2bX once actually said that I didn't seem like I really wanted to have sex. Now, given that my "signaling availability" behavior was as in-your-face assertive on occasion as taking off my shirt and playing with my own breasts in front of him and rubbing my clit against his ass in bed, I think there was a bit of eye-of-the-beholder going on. In any case, it still isn't the "job" of the HD spouse to figure out why the LD spouse is LD and/or solve the problem. It makes no difference whether the potential problem is porn, depression, lack of physical attraction etc. etc.

Last edited by MJontheMend; 01/21/08 02:48 PM.

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