Hi...I am new to this forum. I'm sorry if I don't know all the acronyms yet. Here is my story in a nutshell... I've been married to my husband for 10 yrs. I'm 50 and he's 46. We ML once every 3 or 4 months and that is only because I initiate it. When we do ML, it is fantastic...at least for me. He seems to enjoy it. I would like to ML once a week. Instead it is about 4 times a year. He doesn't seem to have any sex drive. Here is the kicker...he is SO affectionate to me. He loves me so much. We hold hands, hug, kiss, say ILY all the time. I love him and desire him all the time. I still want him more than ever. We each have one child from a previous marriage and they are grown and gone. So, we have plenty of opportunity. Instead, there's just a lot of cuddling going on. We sleep like spoons. I am so frustrated but I stopped complaining years ago. I don't know what to do. I don't think he sees me as a woman with desires. I used to pout and then we would fight. He would promise to see a Dr. or go to counseling (which we did before for 2 visits). Nothing changed. I actually went to a lawyer to discuss a divorce but he didn't know that. The thing is...I REALLY love him so much. He is a truly wonderful man and a great husband. It is just this one thing that is not normal. I know he isn't gay. I haven't changed physically in these 10 yrs...meaning I'm the same weight I was when we met. We were hot and heavy for the first few yrs. It has just tapered off until it has become so infrequent. Can anybody help me? I am really hurting. It makes me feel so undesireable. I don't want to live like this but I don't want to live without him either.
Just wanted to give you some support ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))
