Hi Jenny. Sorry you have hit a rough patch. I just wanted to remind you how stronge you are and how much you have helped others here. No one can change the fact that your H is a selfish A--hole right now. Someone mentioned the fact that the WAS floats in and out while we hold it together. That is so true and it puts so much pressure on us. Face it, the LBS are left to pick up the pieces. Glue can only hold a broken vase together for so long before it starts to leak. So leak when you need to and then pick up the pieces and put it back together.
As for your dear sister....I too have a precious on like that. There is some unspoked jealousy thing that has been going on for years. She is very into appearance and one uping everyone. She hasn't said one work to me about my sitch since she found out three months ago. Granted she is 3 hours away, but she has seen me twice since and said nothing not even I'm here if you need me. My other sis and my brothers have e-mailed, called, spoken when we saw each other to let me know I have their support. Even my ILs have shown more support than her. So you and I both know that our sisters need to work on themselves and they can't be a source of support for us.
Hi Jenny, Wanted to check in and see how you are doing. This weekend appears to have sucked for a lot of us. I'm preparing myself to let go of the rope, again. Or at least as much as I feel comfortable doing. I just wanted to say that you have been an inspiration to me and many others here. Please let us know how your day is going.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Lizzy...thanks for the support. My sister has actually been quite supportive...moreso than ever before in our lives. In fact somehow this whole thing has brought us closer together (even though she lives in Houston, Texas and I'm in Toronto, Canada). She had the best of intentions, but her delivery as well as some of the content was a little unnecessary. I'm feeling better about the conversation right now though and I talked to her last night and it wasn't brought up at all. In fact I spent almost 2 hours listening to her go on about her woes with her teenage daughter. It was nice to turn the tables and be there for her for a change! Plus...it is helping me not to dwell on my H by not talking about it as much.
Blinsided...I know how hard it is to 'let go of the rope'. You've been doing so well lately and I'm really happy to see the progress you're making. I just read on someone else's post that "Hanging on IS throwing in the towel". Basically, if you're hanging on to them, then you're contributing to the M NOT reconciling. It made so much sense when I read it that way!! I'm actually starting to feel GOOD about letting H go. It's starting to feel like the right thing to do. Him being gone isn't right. Him doing what he's doing isn't right. But me TRULY letting him go and GAL is the right thing to do and the fact that it's starting to feel good to realize that is amazing to me. Who knows how I'll feel tomorrow...but I'll go with that for today!!
Anyway, it was nice to hear you guys say that I've helped others. I appreciate it. What I need to do is start to take some of my own advice!
Gotta go get D from school. J~
Last edited by JennyF; 01/21/0809:18 PM.
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
