Fog fog fog.... That's what it is around here. H is much more considerate at home these days, asking me about my day, pulling up a chair beside me. All small stuff, but its a change. Even if it helps us just be friends again, I can accept that for now. I have continued to do nice things for him all along (asking myself "Would I do this for a friend?") and I think he is getting that now.
husband, I totally understand what you mean. If OW had been interested in my H (and of course H interested in her), then they should have waited. They are equally to blame. But I have learned these days that SHE owes me nothing. She owes her family trust and honor, just like H owes that to us. She betrayed her family, not me.
husband, I have noticed you seem to be regretting what you have done in the past, and I think if you had come in full force (exposing the A, being angry, not making room for her hurt) you would have driven her away even further. By being patient and kind, you are showing her its safe to stay. There will be time to talk about your hurt in the future.
