It's good to hear your update!! I'm glad to hear about the bachelorette party & compliments. Isn't WA-induced weight loss hilarious?? It happened to me too Who knew?
Is there a way you could make yourself a space that was 100% all Beth? Even if it was just a corner, where you could go, and not have to think "ours" or "his" thoughts? Or maybe you could redecorate one of the rooms, or even just get a new duvet cover and sheets, or a new bathmat, something to help you feel more in control of your environment? If you can't put yourself in a new house, maybe you can create a new beth-strengthening sanctuary within it. or maybe plan a special trip to a new place?
book suggestions!!
I just finished the "love letters" chapter from mars and venus. I was a little resistant to mars and venus but it is very gentle and funny and super helpful. I thought it would be most helpful for piecing & retrospective analysis until I got to the "love letters" chapter, which is about releasing negative emotions, even if the other person doesn't witness it. Parts of it are almost exactly like Thich Nhat Hahn's Anger, "hello, my little sadness, I will take care of you". So I thought of you You've probably already read mars & venus, but maybe a re-read of the love letters chapter? & have you read Anger yet? I'd be interested in what you thought about it.
I have some more reading on my list I haven't done yet: five languages of apology; the secrets men keep; four agreements; and how to improve your marriage without talking about it. Just read another post that recommended "getting back together".
I remember a while back you mentioned that you wanted to read more novels! Can you recommend some good novels for *me* to read? Sometimes I need to take a break from the r-related reading. (If you need a good novel, have you read "middlesex" or "what is the what" yet? both are excellent).
You are so strong, Beth!! keep us posted! ((((BETH))))
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