Don't Push!!! A Newbies MUST Read.

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Hey Guys, I just realized something,

That pressure they feel from us even when we're doing nothing overt to cause that response from them is probably internal pressure they are putting on themselves because they know we have changed and they kn ow what they should doing (return to the marriage). Like everything else they blame (project) that onto us, thus we are the source of the pressure they are feeling, and they verbalize that to us. Did I lose anyone?

My counselor believes there is a lot of conscious vs. subconscious stuff going on within my W (he's known her for years) and believes comments she's made indicate her subconscious knows how this will all turn out (us remarried). It's like there is a battle for their psyche (or soul) taking place resulting in the split personality or contradictions we see in what they say and do. You can translate this to id vs. super ego if you like that example better. I think the ego is in a coma at this point.

Grace O,

You're dead on about the meditation. I go to the gym every other day and basically beat myself into exaustion. I've noticed all the people have the same look on their face, their world tuned out because their physical activity requires every bit of their strength and mental concentration. many have commented that it's like meditation because you have to focus on the weightlifting totally. Isn't that what you do when you meditate? Find a point of focus and tune the world out?

Lovemyguy,

I hear you and that is a personal choice. I went out for the first time in over a year. Combo of 1 yr seperation anniversary and W reiterating her desire for divorce. It didn't hurt that two women invited me to the same casual get together. I'm now ready to go out more, it's a definate ego boost, practice for post D life and who knows, WAW may notice the attitude change cause my attitude is shure changing