ItsM, I think what corri wrote here is really important:
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Porn becomes a method of self-comfort, a way of soothing insecurities, lack of intimacy, lack of security, with one's self, with one's outside world... there is something going on, on the inside, that is hurt.
I don't think being confrontational and judgmental about the porn/mb is such a good idea. Introducing shame into the equation between you two is not a productive course IMHO. He probably already feels bad about it, to the extent that he lets himself feel anything about it at all.
If he's experiencing a lot of stresses, especially job-related or financial, this kind of stuff really affects a guy, more so if there are a wife and kids to support.
Why not set your alarm for 4 am and wake HIM up with some fooling around?
