Preschool went well today! The kids were sweet and took my mind off my problems for over an hour which was good. I went to a volunteer workshop after that lasted 2 hours so that was more time away from my problems.
Thanks again for your comments! I have often thought that H might have feelings for me that maybe he doesn't even realize. I think he is still angry at me for the past 2 or so years of depression in which I was not a good wife to him, I must admit, I wasn't cleaning or cooking much and really wasn't being a good wife & if I was an H I would not want to have been married to me. In saying that, I do understand there were reasons for that, but it is all true. I don't know how to exactly deal with that, having said that, how to get him to deal with the anger, he is seeing a therapist for his anger issues, and maybe the therapist can help him see that? Maybe it will just take time and me getting healthier for a while? It has only been 2 months. Saffie, that's interesting about the "lost weight" comment b/c I have lost 30 lbs. of the 40 I gained during when I was depressed and am looking pretty much how when we fell in love/married, and I am still working on losing the last 10.
I can't remember how I approached the email comments back then, but several different ways in all, there were many conversations about that. Re: the saturday date, after he told me he would be dating her on Saturday night b/c he hadn't seen her enough that week (M-F nights and Saturday morning not being enough) I approached it something like "I would appreciate you being discreet and not blatant and trying to be as good a role model for the kids as possible (as you can be in this situation anyway)." That is when he yelled at me that he would date whenever he wanted. So what would you suggest I should have said or done in that situation, cause I thought that was pretty good from me (didn't have time to think what I was going to say you know) for that Saturday night date situation?
Also, even though H threatens that if he breaks up with this OW, that he will date others, because we got together at a young age, 19 & 21, do you think this will def. happen? One positive thing I thought about this comment is that kind of comment doesn't seem to indicate true lasting love with the OW, does it? Or am I just reading too much into that maybe? Anyway, thanks again everyone for your insights!!!
