We've been so conditioned to think that the greatest sin is "selfishness," when so often what looks selfish (whatever that really is) is just a simple desire for happiness.
On this BB you'll read posts where people are reaching for something, feeling their way, but they are stopped dead in their tracks by the big red roadblock: "YOU'RE BEING SELFISH!" End of journey, end of conversation.
Yep. I just got bit (again) by that splendid piece of faulty thinking. I took the family out for a bite to eat, a good time was had by all, and I was looking forward to getting home and spending some quality time with the computer. Of course instead of admitting that, I was back in the mindset that my desire for time alone to read whatever took my fancy within the giant electronic smörgåsbord of reading material we all know and love instead of being joined at the hip with my lovely wife and kids was Selfish and Wrong. So I just started heading on home, and when Mrs. Eddie nicely asked for another quick stop, I snapped at her.
Self-awareness returned a couple of minutes later and I explained where I went wrong and offered to make the stop anyway. Since Mrs. Eddie hates having the author of a misdeed do anything to make it up to her, she wasn't having any of that, and had to cool off in her own good time, which turned out to be thirty minutes or so.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.