No R talk. No blaming. Don't say "you could have tried harder." That's fine for you to think it. Put a filter on your mouth. You can think it. But be careful before SAYING IT.
Feeling down? I don't understand. Why? You had a pretty good afternoon. She texted you. She talked about "next time."
Those all feel like good signs to me! Of course, I know it is not like it was before, when you were living together and everything felt fine, lovey-dovey. I know you feel like things are upside down from not-so-long-ago, from June or July. But despite all that, recent events seem positive. Take it slow. Keep your chin up. Don't get impatient. Be prepared to wait. Maybe it would help for you to think of it as a necessary stage to go through, in order to get a better relationship.
In the meantime, No R talk. No blaming!
Her being angry with the changes you're making - I consider that a good sign, too.
Stay on track!
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
