All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[25yearsmlc]

Dear Dis,

Major computer problems at my end, so can't post much until resolved this week.
I did NOT get the ilybinilwy bomb. H left for a "dream job" making unilateral decisions of major import, and left me with the 2 girls, including a senior in high school. His explanation was that the opportunity was once in a life time, and we'd (me and d10) join him after the older D went to college. I opposed this and felt that when he left, he was choosing a job over his family. I still feel that way.

However, we did reconcile. I came up here with a job offer that will always look great on my resume but the "dream job" H has is NOT so dreamy. He knows we're leaving and suddenly I get to direct the job search/geographically. Or at least, so far he's only looking at places I agree to or suggest. I believe he "gets" that he owes me this and is embarrassed like hell, that he risked so much for something like a job, let alone a job that isn't panning out (thank GOD for that, btw). It was a weird time and I think he was in MLC and the employer was very convincing. I AM WORKING FOR THE SAME COMPANY MYSELF so you know the employer is convincing. But as an attorney, I can see that the company will take a long time to ever do what was promised, so we're leaving as far as I'm concerned. And yes, h is job hunting, discreetly.

I love my h and he is changing into a better man, I think. But if he wants only to pursue money as if that's the only thing that matters, he'll be alone again, for good.
j-