((((palgal)))) Well, I think I am to the point where something has to change. Things have been essentially the same for more more than three years, probably more than that.
Hmmm, you got right to the meat of the issue there, pal! The best outcome I can imagine would be a better M. But, I am not sure that I want to be married to my W. And, I'm not sure that there is really much that can be done about that. I'm becoming more convinced that she is the way she is, I'm not sure that she could change if she wanted to. And, to some extent, I guess I'd say the same about me. Other than the kids, and the fact that it will certainly cost us, I really struggle to come up with any reasons to be married to her. I don't like that answer, particularly, but there it is.
I think it's been in existence all along, Amy. It's just getting harder to ignore. I think there has to be a pretty fundamental change in her way of thinking. It isn't a phase, she's really always been like this, though it is worse now. So, I'm not sure that it's something she can change, and I'm not sure I'd trust it, or believe it if she did. That's the really scary part.
I think I will spend some time trying to come up with some reasons why I want to be married to her, and see what happens.
DH, part of the problem is that you have been ignoring it for so long rather than dealing with it. I agree W has a bad way of thinking and dealing with her life but there is always room to change.
Make YOUR changes. Focus on the positives, in fact search for the positives. Let her notice. See if she follows.
((((palgal)))) You are right, a HUGE part of the problem is that it has been ignored for a long time. It makes it very overwhelming, that's for sure. It's gotten hard to focus on the positives, the negatives are so overwhelming!
But, I think I will try to take some time to think about the positives, and worry about me. And see what happens.
I think it's been in existence all along, Amy. It's just getting harder to ignore. I think there has to be a pretty fundamental change in her way of thinking. It isn't a phase, she's really always been like this, though it is worse now. So, I'm not sure that it's something she can change, and I'm not sure I'd trust it, or believe it if she did. That's the really scary part.
I think I will spend some time trying to come up with some reasons why I want to be married to her, and see what happens.
Sorry for the delay. Had to wipe the Diet Dr. Pepper off my monitor after I shot it out of my nose when I read that bullcrap I highlighted and made BOLD in the hopes you might pull your head out of your butt.
Hey, here's a crazy thought: How about REALLY changing YOU?
