Originally Posted By: mymonkeybug
When he says what he says about, "Will you stop!", it makes me feel like I must be repulsing him and then I think poorly of myself so I decided to stop asking and see what happens.


This is why you must stop doing this. If something makes you feel bad, stop doing it. As far as seeing what happens... I suggest you turn your attention away from him, unless you see honest-to-goodness interest. He knows where you are and that you are interested. To keep putting yourself out there and getting rejected is painful... and you need to stop hurting yourself.

Sandi gave you good advice.

I have an affirmation card on my desk that says: "I surround myself with people who care about me." Think about it: why would you want to be around someone who is being unkind to you and rejecting what you are offering? Think about the other people in your life who care about you, or about friends that you could become closer to and be around THOSE people-- people who appreciate you and show that they care. Believe me, I've had to learn this lesson, too.