Lizzy I needed that laugh. WTF is taking that spaceship so long?
Anyway, BJ lizzy is absolutely right. Take the control away from them. Don't answer every call and by no means don't do what they expect you to do. Even if it is small don't give it to them. For example, I sent my H a text to say thank you about something and I sent him a pic of son and cat. He responded to neither. Now I have seen him twice since i have sent both texts and it is killing me not to ask if he has gotten them. Asking would be typical for me. I won't ask. I was actually kind of beating myself up about sending the texts, but he sends pics all the time and you know even though I hate him now he is really, really doing a great job with our son and I believe in giving credit where credit is due. I figured if I don't ask him why he did not respond then I am still doing something different. You make up the schedule that works for you and give it to him. Say you tried to wait on him and you couldn't. You made what works for you and if it does not work for him he needs to come up with something. If he does not, then stick to what you have. If he starts flaking out and you need to get a sitter can you take the money from somthing that you pay jointly and just reduce your portion? I found that the best thing that worked with my H was playing hardball. The harder I get the better response I get from him. Detach, Detach, Detach. Don't be there for him. He will have lots of questions with the kids. Only answer the life and death ones. He will have fun playing house, but eventually the novelty should wear off.
