So much so that I have asked him twice if we could and his response is always, "Will you stop!"
When your H says this to you, how does it make you feel? To some women (like myself) I would probably walk through fire before he would ever hear me ask him again! He has left you sweetie and you can't be showing this kind of neediness toward him.....as you now see. It simply turns him completely off! You sound like a woman who must be extremly senual and a probably can't get enough affection. I have known some women like that and I wish I was turned more that way.
I don't know what to tell you other than try to take care of your sex needs by MB. As far as the bonding, you need something to show affection to. Children, old people, and even pets can be an avenue to give some of that love. I know this isn't what you were talking about, but you need to stay busy and you need warm bodies to touch and hold and pet. So, get involved in situations that place you in contact with others that need attention and affection.....like the elderly. Don't shake your head, at least it is better than sitting at home crying for somebody that doesn't want you to touch them.
My advice may sound shallow, but I haven't been in your shoes, so I don't really know how to help you. I was just trying to think of something you could do to keep your mind busy and put some of that affection to good use. Hopefully, somebody that is going through or has been through what you are experiencing can help you with advice. I read one poster who said she was fighting to keep her pet dog so she would have something to cuddle to at night. It isn't the same as having a husband, but it is a warm being that you can hold.
Anyway, just wanted you to know that we are reading your post. Others may be like myself and not really know what to say to help, but we are here to listen when you need us.
Take care of yourself and stay strong.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
