Dave,

I'm sorry you are hurting. I'm sure you are corect, and she is lying. That is what they do. You ask what is wrong with her. I am atempted to answer the question, but none of the answers are nice. Let's just say she is too selfish and self-centered. She is a taker in life. There are other words for it but I am not a psychologist, so I can't diagnose people. I will say, that from everything you've said about her here, I think you got a bad first wife. I hope that you will begin to move on, and start looking for more compassionate companionship in the future.