Divorced but CANNOT "move on": Urgent Help Needed!

[Tamashii]

DMW,

I don't know why I was attracted to this forum. Perhaps because I'm getting ready to sign D papers I figured I should check this forum out. But I believe God led me to you.
You problem is a spiritual one.
You are led around by your feelings, and feelings will accomplish nothing in the business of marriage restoration.

The first three steps of the AA program, which are borrowed by many other programs, go something like this:
1.) I am POWERLESS over alcohol. (Some of us like to add, as we learn, PEOPLE, PLACES, THINGS and SITUATIONS.) My life is UNMANAGEABLE by me.
This is you. Maybe not the alcohol, so substitute XW. You can control NOTHING except what you do next.
Sit there a minute and savor that.
2.) There is a power greater than myself who can restore me to sanity. Who is that power for you, DMW? Is it God? Call on Him. Ask Him to restore you to sanity.
3.) I turn my LIFE and my WILL over to God as I know Him and ask that my thoughts and actions be based upon His will, not mine. I add to this my WIFE, my MARRIAGE and any other situation I can't handle, which is most of them.

We do this as many times as necessary to get us through a day without doing something stupid, be it taking a drink or bothering a spouse who wants nothing to do with us.

The Serenity Prayer goes with this: "God, grant me the serenity to ACCEPT the THINGS (XW, etc.) I CANNOT CHANGE, the courage to change the things I can (ME) and the WISDOM to know the difference."

When you can embrace these concepts, you will begin to act rationally, which, up to this point, seems to have been an area of challenge for you.
You need to shut up, back up and detach from this woman. I can make it no prettier than that. George Patton said "when I want them to hear me, I give it to 'em loud and dirty. That way they remember."
It's ok to stand for your marriage. If that's what you want to do, visit http://www.rejoiceministries.org or http://www.midlife.com or http://www.covenantkeepersinc.com. You will receive great support.
But there are things that only make the situation worse, and you are doing every one of them. You need to shut up, back up and detach from this woman. Yes, I repeated it.
This is harder for some than others, but you must start, and you must practice until it becomes natural for you. At THAT point, the chance for restoration will manifest itself. A CHANCE.
Now you have no chance, because your selfishness is pushing her further away. She's saying to herself, 'I knew I was right to dump that SOB. Look at how he acts!'
Doing this hurts like hell. But it's your only chance.

I have more but it's time for church. I leave you with Corinthians 1:13, Paul's teachings on love. You probably recited them at your ceremony but didn't really assimilate them. Read them now and meditate on them.

God bless you,

David