Yes. You are a natural for Retrouvaille. You see how it makes you feel better to express your feelings? Your email was perfect. We learn to always start with saying something nice. Acknowledging a nice thing the spouse did, or something like that. Then we talk about a feeling, never about the other person, or even an opinion. But you will get to Retrouvaille, and you will do it, and you will love it. It was such a wonderful experience for us! And don't think we walked in that door getting along! We were vicious to each other. But it was a turning point. They gave us the tools to help us deal with our problems.
BTW, my husband is about the same age as yours, and this was his MLC. Or his last-ditch attempt to fix his life before death loomed in the distance. I don't really blame him. Our relationship was very prickly. It's a shame on the one hand that we needed to be taught how to be nice to each other. On the other hand, when I look around at other couples, it's good that we learned it. So we wasted a lot of our years together. But from here on out we can do it better and enjoy each other.
I am so happy to hear that you will be going to Retrouvaille. It is a wonderful experience. You will never regret the 2 days you spend there. Do the post sessions too. There is a lot more.
