The D is final. She can't hurt you anymore. It is up to you to not allow it. Like Bill said, Life does get better and you will find someone when the time is right.
When you can do the things you both used to do and not have negative thoughts; have good memories and know that it doesn't hurt when you think about it, you know you are on your way.
It is time for you to focus on Jeff. It seems to me that your W needs your support, your advice and encouragement. While that is great and you should treat her with unconditional love, it is time she made her own decisions without you. She got what she wanted but somehow I don't think she knows what it truly entails yet.
In my eyes, she is concerned that you are going to move on and by contacting you, she keeps you at bay.
You have survived. You have reached the top of the mountain. Check the view and stay awhile. Can you see what is ahead of you? Dream it and do it.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
