We've been so conditioned to think that the greatest sin is "selfishness," when so often what looks selfish (whatever that really is) is just a simple desire for happiness.
On this BB you'll read posts where people are reaching for something, feeling their way, but they are stopped dead in their tracks by the big red roadblock: "YOU'RE BEING SELFISH!" End of journey, end of conversation.
Even the Bible says "Love your neighbor AS YOURSELF," but our interpretation of that has been "love your neighbor BUT NOT yourself. (BTW, when Jesus said that, he was quoting the book of Leviticus in the O.T.)
Sure, there's a kind of selfishness that is me me me, I want what I want and I don't care who gets hurt. But there's also a healthy kind that says BOTH of us have a right to be happy, and if I sacrifice myself for you, we are both left with nothing.
Mojo, this
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people who tend towards depression tend to be more judging of self and others in that manner. Therefore, they may seek out a partner who is more childlike/manic and end up in a dysfunctional cycle of attract/attack
is very interesting. What article was that-- do you remember? This sounds so much like me.
