Sally, it did feel like H was trying to sound like he had no choice but to be with OW. He was hurting, lonely, and feeling betrayed by me (for ignoring him and his needs...spew by the way) and there she was. But guess what, he opened HIS heart and unzipped HIS pants. He could have been the real man and divorced me first, then pursued her right back.
Trying HARD not to make it about OW, keep reminding me of this.....
I do see now that OW/affair was a result of a failing marriage. Not a choice he should have made, but he was in a place where he 'needed' that at the time. Why and how we got to that point is more important than the actual affair.
