nocode, you deserve to succeed as well, as do all of us!!!
I am trying to tell myself that our new 'closeness' will help us either way, if we R or even if we D. I don't want to be *that* couple, the bitter divorced couple. Nor does H. I want our kids to see us happy even if we are apart (trying to forget the lesson they will learn about giving up on a marriage, ugh), and want them to see we can put them first.
H told me last week that OW was very persistant in the beginning of this mess (before they were physical): calling him all the time, showing up where he was, bending over in front of him, smiling, flirting, touching him, hugging him, telling him how awful her H was, and how perfect my H was. Just before H told me this, I had said "I don't have anger for OW", then after he said this, I smiled and said "Ok, maybe a little bit of anger."
