I posted b/c you asked a question and it would have been rude not to say that I read the question but could not answer it just then.
Your post cleared it up for me. You said in earlier posts that you were only focusing on YOU and NOT the R. That you were not going to DB any longer. You implied DB = 'fixing'.
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The only thing I need to be working on is me. Not our 'relationship', me.
Now you say R improvement is a "side effect" and that your "detaching" went a little too far. And you say "unconditional love".
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Most of the women I have talked to who I trust, have said the same thing: Save yourself FIRST, be decent, coordial, friendly when you feel like it. Do not DB. Unplug from the emotional connection.
I don't agree with all of that but overall what you just posted is an okay course of action until you figure it out. I will not confuse things further right now.
