He has issues. He has to work through them for either of you to be happy. I'm so sorry, but we just don't have any control over when that will happen.
It's pretty common for them to act cold during/after giving you hope by making contact/doing something for you. It makes them feel pressured. I think you are right, going dark is the best alternative for now.
Maybe getting a life doesn't have to be something exhausting. The key is to do something that takes the focus off of the WAS and puts the energy into learning something new about the world, about yourself... anything that'll make you stronger as you build a life that will be full-- with or without him in it.
You are getting healthy. Clearing up the "wrinkles" in your life. That takes a lot of energy! I wasn't the type to go out and learn how to snowboard either. The key is to do things that enrich you and not do the same things that got you where you don't want to be.
You will be fabulous. You will be someone anyone would be lucky to have in their life. You are not a fool. Give YOURSELF time.
