I would NOT tell him to call back when he can have a civil discussion. Actions honey. Stop answering every time he calls. I would not be available every time he wants to do a temperature check.
Please refocus on you and the kids. Get away from the phone for a while and you won't know if he calls or not. You went back to work! You have a schedule. You will me making plans to do things to enrich your life and improve BobbiJo.
You have to do this part. For PMA.
Because this is going to take longer than you want it to.
Because you are driving yourself crazy and focusing too much on what/why he is doing what he's doing.
Because you don't want the relationship you had as that is what got you here...
Make a visitation schedule up and have it ready when he gets back from Denver. If he wants to negotiate, fine. But you don't need to wait for him to discuss it if he isn't forthcoming. Seeing the schedule... the actual time he will be with his kids... that may snap him out of his wishy-washy-come-and-go-as-I-please mode.
