I really appreciate your candid post. I can understand what you are saying, but I am wondering how this makes H feel better to receive back contact from me if he's so depressed about what he did in the first place? I mean, I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. Meanwhile, lately I have had some bits of anger start to surface and that has been a long time coming. Specifically, about ow and the whole baby thing. I am so angry that he was so careless that ow could pull the lie off three times. What a total slap in the face to me...as we are childless between us.
If he ever brought up a R conversation on his own I know I would come out with this. I need to be heard in regards to how much that hurt me. But I won't say anything on my own. I am trying to process & move on.
I am sorry that your xh continues to do what he's doing, too. Isn't he remarried? I wonder what his wife has to say about that?
I have several books on male depression. Maybe I should take another look.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
