Hope, I believe Was2Sad hit it on the nail head this w/his posting. You are the link from his past and because he's floundering in the sea of depression, he contacts you to help him from sinking furtehr into the sea of depression. Your h never cut the ties w/you like so many others have. The reason he didn't is because you've been there for him throughout it all. He knows that you will not leave him out in the cold and he knows that you are his very best friend. That says a lot about what he feels for you deep down under all of that depression fog.
I, too, continue to get communications from my xh, yep, after all of this time. He calls and never leaves messages, both at home and work. He come to my home when I'm not here and moves things around or takes little things, just so that I know he's been here. He can't let go of the past either. For some unknown reason, we have been chosen to be the life perservers for them, even though they've been gone, as we knew them before, for a long time.
Hope, I still try to analyze what this all means too. It's very confusing, but then I stop and go back and re-read what I can on depression and realize that there is no rhyme or reason for what they are doing, except reaching out to what has been familiar to them in the past, hoping against hope, that we will still be there to keep them from sinking further into the depths of depression.
I know that this isn't what you were looking for in the way of an answer, but I do think W2S got it right in many ways. He's not calling to ask about puppy, he's calling to hear your voice, to see if you are happy and yes, to hear about your day and activities because he can't make a move to make his life happier. As Angelica has stated, they are just existing, nothing more, nothing less.
I do hope that some day, we can find the answers to all of this, but I seriously doubt that we will. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
